Tonight, as I stood over the fryer making the bakes that Jaheim asked for, I got to thinking. Once you reach that age of majority where you finally consider yourself to be an adult, you let out a whoop of joy that now you can do what you wish. Did you ever stop to consider that when you enter the world of work you have to answer to a manager, supervisor and even a boss? And, if you want to keep that job, you learn to grumble to yourself about the injustices that you're forced to accept. You can't wait until the day is over and you get home and enjoy that so called freedom you craved since you were a kid.
Then, idiot that you are, you start thinking about how incomplete your life is and you either get married or you have kids. I know this stereotype isn't going to encompass everyone, but whatever the case is, you find yourself a parent. Oh, what joy you feel and then comes those feelings of uncertainty and misgivings that you can really be responsible for someone else's life and care. But yeah, its an adventure and you're as ready as you'll ever be.
Two years later, when that child looks at you with candid and childlike certainty and declares to you that you must make bakes because he likes them, you begin to understand that you are still not your own master. You may have traded in ponytails for a much more adult style and when you step out, its high heels or nothing, but when you have a kid, the moment that child makes a sound, you're there like jack rabbit tending to his every need.
The truth is, that child will probably never recognise the amount of sacrifice you go through just to make sure that the smile on their face stays intact, but when those little arms circle your neck and those tiny mouths touch your cheek in a kiss, believe me when I say its all worth it. And I wouldn't trade it for anything in the world. Well... maybe if it was possible, I'd trade a little bit of the trouble for a few extra minutes a day just to do whatever I want.
Allison is mother to two active boys who challenge her on a day to day basis with their escapades. In her other life, Allison juggles a regular day job as a marketing executive in a health food organization. At night, when everyone is asleep, she dreams of being a fulltime writer and super hero.